I started learning about the LDS Church several years ago and joined with them a couple years later. One thing I have learned about the restored Gospel is that it makes sense. Unfortunately, it makes sense for everything except the issue of plural marriage. It is not the commandment in D&C 132 but rather the Manifesto of 1890 that doesn’t make sense. The revelation of 132 is very plain, but I can’t make the Manifesto jive with anything Heavenly Father has said elsewhere in the scriptures. If someone knows that the practice is ordained of God and that it is needed for exaltation, how do they get started practicing it?
Sunday, November 29th, 2009The section on plural marriage is very plain indeed and is a fundamental doctrine of our great faith. The responsibility of entering into this eternal principle is shared between a husband and wife as paragraph 61 through 65 explain. The problem that the present LDS membership have to deal with is not so much the Manifesto, which I can kind of understand, well sort of, considering the tumultuous times and the age of the old brethren back then, but it is the attitude of the present leadership. When I was visiting with Larry King once, he told me that President Hinckley had told him that Plural Marriage was never a fundamental principle of our faith. I can’t imagine that Brother Hinckley had forgotten to read the D&C but maybe he had. I don’t know why the present leadership are so ashamed of something that meant so much to the early brethren that it must be discounted as never a fundamental principle. Oh well, that doesn’t matter to me because I am a Mormon fundamentalist and that is not what you asked.
I don’t really know how to convey my answer in a short space but I can give you some advice on what is not acceptable. Don’t try and convert someone else’s wife into joining you in a plural marriage relationship. Adultery won’t make your home more celestial. Teach your wife that plural marriage is a fundamental principle of our faith and help her understand that she also has a responsibility to live the fulness of the gospel. No matter how ready, willing and available some woman may be to join up with you, use the same caution and wisdom that you used in the first place. A woman that will leave someone else will also leave you. An unfaithful wife of someone elses will also be unfaithful to you. A person that does not have faith in God won’t automatically have faith because you do. The ultimate goal of any plural family is to have a friendly happy relationship of sharing caring staying people who will joy in each others joys, sorrow in each others sorrows, and love the faith that will glue them together forever. When you get that far you will know what I mean.
Plural Marriage has also lots of problems. For over 150 years the brethren have been battling with every nasty old battle axe that had an ugly life and cannot see anything decent about two or more woman and one man joined as a family unit. They will raise holy hell, make books, expose every ugly feeling that they had along the way and try and make those feelings credible of every plural situation. They cannot see virtue if they haven’t any, co-operation if they are selfish, beauty when they feel so ugly, and they refuse to believe that anyone could be bound by their faith, because they have no faith, and if they pretend to they have forgotten the basic teachings of Christ. If they had remembered Christ they would not carry on so. Then there is the LDS Church. Is it fair to say that if you started talking about Plural Marriage at your church you would soon not be a member? They used to all say that it was not practiced because it was against the law. It is not against the law for the lawmakers to intimately associate with who and how many, male or female. Dozens of Presidents and Prime Ministers have openly exercised the skeletons in their own closets, skeletons that were more than mere bones, all the while they planned on making more laws against someones basic fundamental religious principles, which by the way is against the law. I wonder what the church will then say to their members when polygamy is no longer illegal? But, I don’t really care because the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ is as old as eternity and the Prophet Joseph said that it was never changing, for he reasoned, if God was always changing, then who could ever really know if they were pleasing him? Faith in him then would no longer exist! The church should study our fundamental principles instead of putting their trust in the arm of flesh. That’s just my opinion.
The best way to get started is get busy. Dozens of lazy men want to be polygamists and generally for all the wrong reasons. Go to work and fall in love with your wife and then go help someone in need. Do what Christ said and help those who you can help whether they like you or not. Keep yourself virtuous, don’t have wicked imaginations, be selective about what you read and watch and take great care to not touch something either mentally or physically that you should not. Let virtue garnish your thoughts unceasingly, then shall thy confidence wax strong in the presence of God and the doctrine of the Priesthood shall distill upon thy soul as the dews from heaven. Plural Marriage is a Doctrine of the Priesthood so it stands to reason that a Priesthood that does not honor that Doctrine needs to re-look at their authority. Clean up your yard, your shop, your house, your life. Go to your meetings, socials and functions. Actually, you should go to somewhere where people have the same faith hopes and dreams as you do, then go to meetings, socials and functions. Keep yourself clean physically and mentally. Pay your tithing and help on the projects. It has been my experience that a man who helps and participates, brushes his teeth and is clean is far more attractive than a filthy lazy man and far more desirable. You don’t have to be tall dark and handsome either. Be a man of God and let your light shine before men and woman and they will see your goodworks and some will want to be a part of all that.
It has been my experience that the happiest plural marriage associations are not had in wealth or mansions. They are had by people who make no compromise for their faith, no compromise in their virtue, no compromise in their living habits, and take no chances with their salvation. If you have bad habits then get over them. If you have a tarnished past then repent and don’t look backward anymore. Dispose of your sins and don’t dig them up anymore. Be all that our faith expects you to be and you will be well on the way. What’s more! God will notice you first.